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Big Lew

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My wife has been suffering extreme pain mostly in her back, hip, knee, and leg for several weeks now.
She has gone to her doctor and a specialist who in turn have sent her in for a variety of tests and x-rays.
She's had a lot of blood work done during this time and the only conclusion they've come up with is a
virus in her blood and muscles. Her specialist called early this evening, Apparently she has inflammation
going on in her blood which is getting worse so they're setting up some more tests for either tomorrow or
Monday. They're testing for signs of cancer this time around. Pretty scary word! Not much we can do but
let it play out and hope for the best. If it weren't for the high inflammation reading in her blood, she has
been optimistic that she was getting a bit better. Next week or so is going to be stressful, especially considering
that I have to go in on the 6th for my own assessment. Sucks getting old for sure.
 

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Sorry to hear of your troubles. You have a lot of friends here thinking of you and the love of your life. Keep positive.
 

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Dave, if there is anything I can do, please let me know.... I will try my best to help if need be... please give gentle hugs to her from me.... I wish only good things to come for both of you....

Ali
 

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The two of you will be in my thoughts and prayers Dave...try to stay positive and upbeat for her friend
 

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Thanks for the kind words everyone...the unknown can be difficult. We should know more
in the next few days. Personally I think she will be fine as she seems to be improving a bit.
 

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Dave - while I'm certainly no doctor I find it difficult to wrap my head around why your poor wife is not suffering all throughout her body. Inflammation in the blood is the diagnoses and I respect their knowledge but why is she not in pain all over when that inflammatory blood flows throughout her whole body? :not sure:

Regardless - both my wife and I are in your corner (you know this to be true) and we are sending nothing but good thoughts your way. :Oh Yeah!:
 

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Just a note. For about 5 years one of my hunting partners and friend suffered from a reoccurring infection, a BAD one. Hew was being hospitalizes on a regular basis. He had been examined and tested by everyone from a care aid to the BC infectious disease specialist. finally a few months ago a cardiologist asked if they had ever checked his teeth. UH NO. sure enough the infection was rooted in 2 teeth and is jaw. While I have respect for Drs. they are not infallible, even with a second third and fourth opinion.
 

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Just a note. For about 5 years one of my hunting partners and friend suffered from a reoccurring infection, a BAD one. Hew was being hospitalizes on a regular basis. He had been examined and tested by everyone from a care aid to the BC infectious disease specialist. finally a few months ago a cardiologist asked if they had ever checked his teeth. UH NO. sure enough the infection was rooted in 2 teeth and is jaw. While I have respect for Drs. they are not infallible, even with a second third and fourth opinion.
No, they're not infallible, nor are some of them as thorough and conscientious as you might think or expect.
My mother died in the St Paul's Hospital from a perforated ulser while in the care of a team of 5 heart specialists.
When she complained of severe pain in her abdomen she overhead one of them suggest that she was just another
fat old hypochondriac. She had just turned 50. If it weren't for my new wife's influence, I likely would be spending
a long time in jail over that.
 

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Well, it's been a very stressful and busy time the last few weeks.
Many appointments to get scans and see specialists with a lot more to go.
All this while having the plumbing done. My own surgery was pushed back
into the middle of January. We got a call from the chemo clinic yesterday evening
to get her into emergency because her latest blood tests showed dangerously high
sugar counts, very low oxygen and red blood cells, as well as she was quite dehydrated.
Twelve hours later after waiting long periods, she had a blood transfusion and they
stabilized the other issues so I brought her home. Had a terrible time getting her into
the house as she had no power in her legs and I can't lift up on her much as it is too
painful for her. It's becoming a difficult chore just getting her into the truck as well.
Apparently the major pain is from a bad bout of sciatica, not the cancer. Will see how
things go once she gets some rest and the pain meds kick in....might have to get help or
have her placed in Palliative care.
 

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Dave, what about a work party to make your place wheelchair accessible? Lots of good skills here and I know people would be happy to help, I know I would make the trip.. Just a thought
 

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Thanks for the offer Jim, but the biggest issue is if she falls or goes down onto the floor.
If she doesn't at least get back to where she was earlier yesterday then I can buy a stair
lift or have an outside lift put in and build a wheelchair walkway to the driveway. The most
convenient system would be an elevator, but at $10,000-$13,000 it's a major investment
for what likely will be a short time. If she hasn't improved by this afternoon, when the care
person comes tomorrow to give her a bath etc, I will discuss further help. Having someone
I can call through them will likely be better than calling an ambulance if she falls. We shall see.
 

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Again and again the folks within this site show their friendly, caring, and compassionate nature.
Thank you! I will try to put the situation into perspective though...we both know her situation is
terminal and have accepted it as that. Of course I will do my best to keep her with me in our house
and as comfortable as possible, but again, we know there's a time when she will have to go into the
hospital palliative ward. Meanwhile I will pursue whatever options are available and I can afford.
Although many that know me expect me to build a contraption to raise and lower her, that's
not in the cards. I can build a walkway for a wheelchair though if they put in a lift out our front door.
 
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